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Sibling Conflict, Part II

Sibling Conflict, Part II

So, what can we do to bring healing to sibling conflict? First, accountability is a must. As Michelle and I talked more, I learned that her sister was not giving Michelle a regular summary of her mother’s income and expenses.  Secrecy creates mistrust and fuels...

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Sibling Conflict

Sibling Conflict

Just before Christmas, a couple came to see me wrestling with an issue facing many adult children. “Michelle’s sister is responsible for her mother’s affairs,” her husband Bob reported. I quickly saw a furrowed brow on the wife and an edge to her husband’s normally...

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The Happiness Factor

The Happiness Factor

Forbes, Trip Advisor, the United Nations, and other entities rate countries annually on the “happiness” factor. Costa Rica, Norway, Denmark, Vietnam, and Canada all rate rather high. The United States is somewhere in the mid-20s or lower. This year, ask strangers,...

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A Difficult Time of Year

A Difficult Time of Year

The holiday season is upon us. Thanksgiving is past; Hanukkah and Christmas are here with a speed that defies readiness. With the coming of the seasons’ festivities, we are nourished by good words like family, cheer, love, joy, festivity, lights, decorations, and...

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The Power of Admitting a Mistake

The Power of Admitting a Mistake

Kathie and I are fortunate in many ways. The most obvious is our three adult children and the lives both personal and professional they have crafted for themselves. One of those blessings is the fact I receive some of my very best reading recommendations from them....

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The Comfort Level Meter

The Comfort Level Meter

Here’s a test. Scan your file marked “New People Met” and bring to recent memory two or three names, faces, or circumstances when you met someone for the first time. What do you remember about that encounter? What was your first impression? What do you think your...

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When the Music Stops

When the Music Stops

The unthinkable has happened yet again. Two weeks ago, on a clear Sunday evening, a joyous crowd of music lovers was assaulted by a madman firing an automatic weapon from a room on the 32nd floor of Las Vegas’ Mandalay Bay hotel. As of this morning, 59 are dead and...

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Full Disclosure

Full Disclosure

Many years ago, I sat with a man whose cagey demeanor told me there was something “back there” that haunted him. In all candor, all of us have moments in our past which we have put in a lock box because they are too painful, too raw to take out and revisit. With...

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Overwhelming Choices

Overwhelming Choices

A good friend who is also Dean of School of Business at Henderson State University recommended I read Sheena Iyengar’s fascinating book, The Art of Choosing. In the book, Dr. Iyengar, S.T. Lee Professor in the Management Division of Columbia University’s Business...

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Totality

Totality

At the last minute, three of our five grandchildren made us an offer we could not refuse. Visiting from Atlanta, as did all our children and grandchildren, they and their parents (our son and daughter-in-law) stayed over Sunday evening to chase the eclipse into South...

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Facing Forward

Facing Forward

Several years ago, I was in conversation with an older clergyman who had served the same church for over 25 years. In the course of that conversation, I asked my friend, “How have you sustained a ministry at one church for those many years?”  Without hesitation, he...

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Asking Tough Questions

Asking Tough Questions

Following a recent talk, someone posed a question about discovery you may have asked. “Is asking questions about a client’s life, family, family-of-origin issues, work, money, health, and fears going too far?” In other words, are we asking questions that are "too...

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Feeling Vulnerable

Feeling Vulnerable

I have come to learn in the last two weeks what feeling vulnerable is all about. But I will get to that later. Brene Brown, both in her writing and speaking, has revealed how powerful vulnerability can be in bonding our lives to others. Her TED Talk, “The Power of...

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Acceptance

Acceptance

I write today on a personal note reflecting on the powerful word “acceptance.”  Like many if not most of you know, I am a polio survivor who was 13 months of age when that virus invaded my body. I was one of the lucky ones; only my left leg bears witness to the after...

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Acknowledging Noise

Acknowledging Noise

The agenda set for a client meeting is predictable: Anything changed since we last met? Is there anything that keeps you up at night? Review the account. Re-visit past and current recommendations? Is there anything else? “Good to visit with you. See you next week at...

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Being in Role

Being in Role

Actors make their living taking on the personality, mannerisms, attitudes, and voice of the character they portray at the time. In one movie, Leonardo DiCaprio is a doomed hand on the Titanic and in another, Howard Hughes. Helen Mirren is the Queen on film in one year...

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Client Loneliness

Client Loneliness

My guess is that your practice may include single, widowed, and divorced individuals. The numbers are telling: single adults in the United States now comprise slightly more than half the adult population. That number is growing.  For younger adults, being single poses...

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Adult Children Challenges

Adult Children Challenges

Far more than any advisor is comfortable admitting, we serve senior clients who have challenges with their adult children. Just imagine; the adult children I’m talking about are Baby Boomers with kids of their own!  When one of these senior clients calls with a...

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A clarion call to lead with purpose, Cadence of Care offers a wise and practical guide to deepening and enriching client relationships.

- Robert B. Seaberg, Ph.D. Intersect Consulting, LLC

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Tim Owings understands what all the great ones know. People who trust you are far more important than all the product knowledge in the world.

- Don Connelly
Don Connelly Associates​

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The concepts Tim Owings shares in his book provide a comprehensive blueprint to integrate into practice.

- Marc D. Miller, Ph.D.,
Dean of the School of Business, Henderson State University